Assumptions

So my plan of writing 2 - 3 times per week fell to the wayside as I embraced a battle with city hall.  More on that another time.

Now on to what got me riled up today.

I am a stay at home mom.  Please stop making assumptions about me.

First of all, for once and for all.  I DO NOT BAKE.  I have no desire to learn to bake.  I do not feel guilty about not baking.  If an occasion calls for baked goods I am more than happy to support local small businesses.  They do it for a living for a reason.  They're good at it.  You're having a bake sale?  good for you.  I'm more than happy to purchase your wares, or help you sell them but stop assuming I will contribute.

Second, yes I have a lot of time.  But I have filled that time with things that are important to me.  If I don't volunteer for something I probably have another commitment.  Or maybe I did a lot of work at a previous event and am of the opinion that it is someone else's turn.

Third, it is ok to say no sometimes.  Saying no does not make a bad person or a bitch.  Why don't you ask me why I said no, perhaps it's the same reason I didn't volunteer in the first place.  I'm happy to explain and won't be insulted and it's nicer than talking behind my back.

Third, part 2, do not assume I am going to do something.  Or just start including me on email strings and assigning me jobs.  Especially jobs I am NOT qualified to do.  This is not cool.

Forth, I do not spend my day doing any of the following:
- watching TV
- playing Farmville
- obsessively cleaning
- getting manicures / pedicures / spa treatments
- shoe shopping (ok fine, occasionally I shop for shoes, but only when I need some happy)

Fifth, yes, I spend too much time on Facebook and Perez Hilton. I'm fine with that.  I also read the newspaper everyday.  Find happiness where you can people.

Sixth,  I do get lonely for grown-up conversation but no, I haven't decided when I'm going back to work.  Mostly because I'm still not sure what I want to be when I grow up.  Besides, I'm mom and I'm good at it.

Even if I don't bake.